when athazagoraphobia strikes

Being a Buddhist, I should have been familiar with the concept of karma, attachment and annica. What goes around comes around. If you treat people like shit, someday someone will treat you like shit as well. It just how karma works. Karma is only a bitch when you are.

About attachment and annica, let me first tell you the meaning of annica. It simply means, nothing last forever. You see, I have been dealing with this feelings that my old friends had forgotten about me. They didn’t ask me out or don’t even bother to contact me. I felt friendless, lonely and, forgotten. This is where the concept of ‘attachment’ comes. When you are too attached to something, or someone, you will end up getting hurt. You demand so many things from them (love, care & all the good stuff) but they just don’t care about you or may be they can’t give it all to you, and you’ll get hurt.

May be I’m too used to and attached with having so many friends around, hoping they’ll love me back equally, hoping they’ll miss me and look for me when I’m not around. I shouldn’t be asking so much, I shouldn’t be hoping so much. The fact that they don’t feel just the same way like I do, even though I tried, I couldn’t do anything to change that, I should just ignored it. Ignore the feelings of being lonely & friend-less. I should focus on the people who care for me, who misses and love me.

With this ‘attachment’ concept, it is crystal clear… Friends do come and go, thus we shouldn’t get too attached to each other. Same concept applies to lovers. The most important thing in life is relationship with our family, because there’s no such thing as ex-mom, ex-dad or ex-brothers. We’re all tied with blood and nothing can change that. Friends? they come and go. Remember annica, nothing last forever.
Even when you’re married, one day your spouse or may be yourself will leave this world. Again, annica.

Now that I could accept this concept, live with it, I won’t be worrying so much. Less suffering, more happiness :) I have to learn to let things go, let this feelings go. Every time I’m feeling this way, I could just trace it back… why am I feeling this way? Another Buddhist concept here, paticca samupadha, which means “dependent arising”. There’s always a cause for anything that happened. And guess what? This stupid feeling… It’s all because of me, me and me. Wicked mind-game… It’s all in our mind, hoping and asking so much, and when you can change that, everything is going to be better.

I’ll just have to let go of this feeling bit by bit.
I know it’s hard, but I’ll try. I know I can :)

Life is too short to worry about these things. This is just small part of life, a lot of people out there are facing so much tougher things than this and they have no complaint. I, should be grateful in the first place that I have family and friends around me right now. :)

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don’t hold on

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do not hold on to the memories. Everyone’s moving forward, you have to move on too.

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you can’t unsee what you saw

Life in Jakarta had been boring. Okay, may be a little exciting since I get to meet my long-time-no-see friends here :) and, of course my dearest family. My 3 months break since my final exam in May is almost over. In that three months time, I get to travel around Indonesia (Surabaya, Solo, Bali) and also to Guang Zhou, to take a tour on my future language school. Other than that, I’ll just stay at home (playing the sims 3 + roller coaster tycoon), or hanging out with my friends or have a great family-time with my dear parents & brothers :) You see how boring my life is in this whole 3 months? I even could summarize it in a paragraph (which I already did and you’re reading it) haha! :X

Time flies as always. I’ll be moving to Guang Zhou in approximately 2 weeks. WOW! another year, another country. Life can’t be more exciting! I’m so blessed to have this opportunity. I’ll be blogging in Chinese one year from now. haha :)
Am I ready? Probably… yes. The thought of having 0 friends scares me but motivates me as well. That is because I love to make friends and being in that situation 2 weeks from now, well, I could make A LOT of friends!

I should start converting movies into the ipod touch format since my flight took almost 5 hours. No complaints here since you guys might have been in so much longer flights than this but still right? 5 hours, way up high in the sky, ALONE?! I must have something to accompany me… (unless the in flight movies are so damn good) haha. oh, and I have to pack a pile of tissues before I get there. You can not imagine how DIRTY & DISGUSTING China’s toilets are. The best toilet I’ve ever been in, in Guang Zhou is… their airport’s. The rest? oh God… You can not unsee what you saw. Seriously, IT’LL KEEP PLAYING IN YOUR MIND. Gotta be prepared man!

“BEST” thing being in China? Every single social networking site is blocked.
that’s right!
no facebook,
no youtube,
no tumblr,
no twitter,
no google,
no blogger.

Okay, luckily there’s google hong kong so I could still search stuff there. Since blogger (blogspot.com) is associated with google, yeah, there’s no way you could BLOG or even access blogs that are powered by blogger.com. SUCKY MUCH?! :’( Luckily, my website here is powered by WORDPRESS <3 and the last time I checked, I could blog there! YAY! haha… I’ll learn to survive without all these eventually. I mean, I have to, or else, I’ll need to learn how to hack China’s firewall. lol.

maaaaannnnn, I wish I have some pictures to spice things up. Too bad I don’t have.
I’ll just end here then. I’m going to watch another episode of How I Met Your Mother before I sleep.
This show always makes me feel happy. teehee. goodnight

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